Say it your way
For each preference choose want, open, curious or no. Skip anything you'd rather not answer.
18+ · Consent first · Private by design
Find people who want what you want.
Inner Desires matches consenting adults by what they enjoy, with boundaries and privacy built into every step.
Create your account Sign in Open your space
You must be 18 or older. Your age is checked on our servers when you sign up.
Compatibility, not guesswork
Tell us what you enjoy and what you don't. We compare answers that both of you chose to share and show you people who line up, never people who have drawn a boundary around something you want.
Boundaries are final
A "no" is never traded off against a high score. People whose boundaries clash with what you want are simply not shown.
You control what's seen
Every answer has its own setting: private, shared after a match, or visible to members.
How it works
- 1
Join and confirm you're an adult
Sign up with your email and date of birth, then confirm your email.
- 2
Share what you enjoy
Answer as many or as few preferences as you like, from kisses to massage to slow evenings.
- 3
Discover compatible people
Browse people ranked by how well your shared answers match.
- 4
Match and talk
When you both like each other you can message, with block and report always one tap away.
Privacy and mutual consent
Private by default
Sensitive answers start private. Nobody sees them unless you decide.
Nobody sees your date of birth
Others see your age, never your birthday, email or location.
Leave whenever you want
Deactivate, export your data, or delete your account from your settings.
What you get
Discovery
Ranked, respectful discovery with likes and passes.
Messages
Private conversations with photo sharing between matches.
Verification
An optional selfie, reviewed by a person, earns a Verified badge.
Coins and gifts
Optional coin packages and small virtual gifts.
Safety and verification
Block anyone, report anything. Reports go to our moderators. A Verified badge means a reviewer approved a selfie; it is a human check, not a guarantee of identity. Read more about safety.
Questions
Who can join?
Anyone aged 18 or over. We check your date of birth on our servers when you sign up.
Will other members see my answers?
Only the answers you choose to share, and only in the way you choose. Sensitive answers are private until you change them.
What does a compatibility score mean?
It summarises how well the answers you both shared line up. It is a guide, not consent or a promise of anything.
Can I stop anyone contacting me?
Yes. Blocking removes you from each other's discovery and ends any conversation.
How do I delete my account?
Open Settings, then Privacy and account. Deletion has a grace period during which you can cancel.
Is it free?
Joining is free. Some extras use optional coins.